How to Love Your Enemies

Fr. Michael Harrington, a native of Swampscott, MA, is a Catholic Priest for the Archdiocese of Boston, and Currently the Pastor of St. Mary’s of the Annunciation Catholic Church in Cambridge. In the past he served as The Director of the Office of Cultural Diversity for the Archidiocese of Boston and is currently a Consecrated member of the Institute of Jesus the Priest (the Pauline Family).
In the Gospel of Luke, we hear those famous mantras of Jesus: “love your enemies,” “do good to those who hate you,” “bless those who curse you,” “pray for those who mistreat you,” “turn the other cheek.”
Whoa, we might be saying! Not so fast! Not so easy! All of those sweet words are not the way of the world.
Is that true?
I was preaching those words once and someone said to me afterwards, “Now enter the real world, Fr. Michael.” I tried to explain the words to him, but he only replied, “I understand what you’re trying to say, Fr. Michael, but I live in the real world.”
He was right. Loving your enemies and doing good to those who hate you is not the way of the world; but, it is the way of the Christian – at least, it is the way that Christ paved for us. Those who want to follow Jesus must walk in his footsteps.
There is a story about Anglican Bishop Desmond Tutu. One day he was walking along a narrow sidewalk. It was only the width of one person. A white man, a racist, stepped on the sidewalk at the other end and, as the two men drew closer, the white man glared and said, “I don’t give way to gorillas.”
Bishop Tutu stepped off the sidewalk, made a sweeping, inviting gesture for the man to pass and said, “Ah, yes, but I do.”
This is a demonstration of Jesus’ admonition, “If someone strikes you on the right cheek, turn and give him the other.”
Mother Teresa entered a bakery one sultry Calcutta morning. She was in search of bread to feed starving children. When she asked the baker if he could donate some, he became inexplicably angry and spat full force in her face. Mother Teresa responded in the Jesus way. She reached into her pocket for a handkerchief, wiped away the spittle, looked the man in the eye and kindly said, “Thank you for that gift for me, now what about bread for my poor children?”
The baker did not spit again. Mother Teresa’s kindness and resolve grabbed him by the heart. That day and thereafter he provided bread for the children.
Here is another story that I overheard one telling which might provide example…
One afternoon I was talking with Phil while he worked in his yard. He went to a bush in the front and scooped up a good deal of something unpleasant. “Where does that come from?” I asked. “It’s the next door neighbor’s dog,” Phil replied. “Eric takes the dog for a walk every morning, and my bush is the dog’s first stop.” “That’s really inconsiderate,” I exclaimed. “Why do you put up with it?” “Well,” Phil answered, “Eric is a good neighbor in every other way, and if cleaning up after a dog is all it takes for me to keep the peace, it’s no big deal.” Many of us might have seen the dog owner’s lack of consideration as an insult, as a slap in the face. Phil, however, saw things with the eyes of Jesus, kept the peace, and remained friends with his neighbor. He ranked love of neighbor ahead of indignation at what he found in his bush.
Luke’s Gospel on loving your enemy (Luke 6:27-38) is almost universally misunderstood. “Loving our enemies” has, through Christian history, either been written-off as unrealistic or practiced in such a way that it allows evil to flourish. Jesus didn’t mean either of these things. He offered an alternative – active, forceful, and, if necessary, even coercive, but nonviolent confrontation of evil both for self‑protection and for the possible conversion of the adversary.
Was Jesus saying that a husband should do nothing while an intruder murders his wife and children? That a woman robbed of her purse should run after the thief and give him her watch? That an apartment-dweller should put up with excessive noise from above? No.
A response may mean silence in one case, confrontation in another; but, it always means looking to Jesus and asking for wisdom and guidance from the Holy Spirit. One more example: When Branch Rickey called on Jackie Robinson to become the first African-American player in major league baseball, Rickey made Robinson promise that, no matter what sort of abuse was aimed at him in the first three years, he would not respond. Robinson asked, “Are you looking for a black man who is afraid to fight back?” Rickey replied, “I’m looking for a ballplayer with guts enough not to fight back.” We know how that turned out.